Oh, that boss was a dick? Well,he didn’t show up with a gun and force me to work for him.īasically, the world exists.
I got fired from my job, I should have been a better employee. Someone fucks me over, I shouldn’t have trusted them. If I want to be free, its on me and no one else. Sometimes people do shitty things, that are unwarranted and out of my control, but I get to choose how I react to it and how it impacts my mental health. At the end of the day, I’m responsible for what happens in my life. Sometimes there’s no right choice, sometimes the outcome will be bad no matter what you choose to do, but you still have to choose.ġ5. There’s nothing you can do for them unless they help themselves too. You can’t help anyone that isn’t helping themselves. And that sometimes you yourself have to be selfish.ġ3. Sometimes you have to forgive people for being selfish. I’M the one who needs to chill out and back away from the situation.ġ2. Super simple but… some things aren’t just meant to be.
You’re not meant for some people like some people aren’t meant for you.ġ0. No matter how wrong someone is or how painfully obvious a solution to one of their problems is to you, sometimes they have to figure it out on their own and there’s nothing you can do to change that.ĩ. I can do all I want to keep another person in my life, but we ultimately do not decide whether they stick around or not.Ĩ. Just because I would never do something to or hurt someone intentionally doesn’t mean they wouldn’t do it back to me.ħ. The hard pill: This doesn’t make them a bad friend, it just means that everyone has their own social network and you can’t always be at the center of everyone’s.Ħ. Sometimes your friends don’t consider themselves as close to you as you do to them. Pain, sadness, anger, fear, sickness, loneliness are all necessary for you to appreciate happiness, togetherness, serenity, healthiness and life in general.ĥ. It’s still better to have wasted two years on something that didn’t work out than wasting ten years on it because you figure you’ve invested too much to quit.Ĥ. Sometimes its better to cut your losses and accept that while you may have wasted time and energy on something, that it’s better to stop hemorrhaging resources when it’s clear that you aren’t getting the outcome you want. Just because you’ve invested a lot of time, money, effort, emotion into something or someone, doesn’t mean that you should continue investing in them hoping that things will change. Sometimes you need to kill off parts of yourself so that something stronger and better can replace them.ģ. There is no inherent merit to authenticity (which is sometimes merely a euphemism for “stubbornness”). You are on your own and always will be.Ģ. No one else is really going to help you or fix things for you. No matter how much anyone likes you or loves you, they have their own life to live and you have your own life to live.